Växa – inte lyda is about a child’s right to be a unique individual, and how we – as parents – can learn to understand, encourage and support children in this. This book deals with everyday situations, and after describing each one we can read how to ...
Växa – inte lyda is about a child’s right to be a unique individual, and how we – as parents – can learn to understand, encourage and support children in this. This book deals with everyday situations, and after describing each one we can read how to deal with it.
Parents must make decisions about many issues when children grow up. In Växa – inte lyda the well-known Swedish paediatrician, Dr Lars H Gustafsson, tells us how we can think about this as parents. Using concrete examples, he also shows what happens with children, with us (the parents), and the relationship between children and parents, depending of what sort of parents we choose to be. He cites modern research about children, and combines that with reflections from his own experience of being a parent, and of being a paediatrician for more than 40 years.
He summarizes, in a simple and pedagogical manner, how you get your child to ‘grow’ as a person and to become an individual with a sense of responsibility. And at the same time, the parent ‘grows’ too. “Bringing up children – when it works well – is a mutual process,” writes Dr Gustafsson. So he discusses and questions the neo-authoritarian programmes (for bringing up children) that have been used in recent years (reward systems, ignoring and time-out), and advocates a combination of knowledge about the rights of children and daring to trust in one’s own parental intuition.
Dr Gustafsson, together with Malin Alfvén, is Sweden’s leading expert on children, parenting and family life. He often contributes to public debates on these subjects, and in all his writings he has had the best interests of the children, and their rights, in mind. He is often quoted by the media.